Certain kinds of love, which are not true love contain aspects of infatuation, jealousy and so on, can be called a love addiction, which can be extremely illogical or irrational. You could easily call it insanity. Here I don't know that you could have gotten a much better reaction from the captain. The best our Lieutenant could hope to do is lie low and as much as is possible stay out of the way. Our lady may make that very difficult though. She may have the same problem the captain does. True love though would mean hoping the best for the one you love whether they are with you or not. These things tend to work out in the end. The lady's course may be as difficult as the lieutenant's though. She might try to lay low and certainly should refrain from even mentioning the lieutenant. However this will play out as the spirit moves the players and there are other forces at work as well. It's said that the root cause of unhappiness and suffering comes from earthly desires.
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